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Rehab does not work for everyone – the statistics prove it. There can be many factors contributing to this because addiction is a highly complex problem. Exploring possible reasons for relapse, should it happen, can be constructive. Learning what you did wrong should help you to succeed, the next time.
Rehab is not a guarantee of sobriety, in fact, it is estimated that between 40% – 60% of attendees will relapse within one year. If you’re one of those for whom rehab did not work, do not despair but instead, ask yourself – why me, where did I go wrong? Understanding how your relapse happened can become your greatest asset and the insights you learn should enable you to get it right the next time. Of course, it may be that your chosen rehab centre was unsuitable, uncaring, or simply incompetent, such places do exist, but a more likely explanation lies within yourself. This is not to say that you are a bad person, it simply demonstrates the frightening power of addiction.
Addiction can be beaten. But it is a disease that is characterised by relapse and cutting corners does not work. There are some often-seen reasons why a person might relapse after rehab, but generalising is dangerous because everyone is different. Factors such as the type and quantity of substance misuse, the length of time in addictive behaviour, and key events in a person’s life can significantly affect recovery outcomes, no matter how good the treatment and how diligent the addicted person is. Here are ten of the most common situations cited by people who have relapsed after a spell in rehab:
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1. I Didn’t Fully Commit to Rehab
Perhaps you were given an ultimatum by your spouse or boss. Being resentful and blaming others for your predicament are ways of deflecting from the main issue – that you have a life-threatening illness that must be addressed. Later, you will see that going into rehab was the best thing that could have happened. However resentful and uncommitted you are, it is crucial that you talk about these feelings honestly – your peer group will pick up on this and work with you to turn your perceived negative attitude into positive commitment, but you must talk about it, otherwise they won’t know.
2. I Didn’t Understand That Only I Can Make Change Happen
No one else can fix you. A lot of people, especially the more fortunate and wealthier among us, may have become used to buying themselves out of trouble – paying an expert such as a lawyer, to fix things. They may think that finding the best psychologist or doctor is all they need to do, to beat their addiction. But recovery can only be achieved by you taking responsibility to work on yourself, nobody else can change you.
3. I Was in Denial
Disregarding the overwhelming evidence to the contrary, you weren’t truly convinced you have a disease that will kill you. Addicted people use denial to help them cope with their own unacceptable behaviour. Their inherent sense of right and wrong are constantly challenged because supporting their habit often requires dishonesty and other activity that they know to be wrong. Denial can become so embedded in a person’s character that they may be genuinely unaware of it. Dealing with denial is one of the first things that happens in rehab and it can only be overcome by rigorous personal honesty.
4. I Felt Myself to Be a Victim – That It Wasn’t My Fault
A victim often feels hopeless and helpless. Feeling this way gives them an excuse not to commit wholeheartedly to the recovery programme. Willingness to change is a vital component of recovery – many people think they are willing but often there is a part of them that does not want change. Recognising this and learning coping strategies for when challenges arise can be crucial in achieving a good outcome.
5. I Hadn’t Been Honest With Myself and Others About My Disease and Behaviour
You meet a lot of people in rehab and some of their stories may seem worse than yours. Perhaps you never went to prison or a hospital. Telling yourself that you’re not as bad as another person is dangerous, as is minimising your own behaviour. You may not have done some things – yet. But, your addiction will lead you there one day, if you don’t stop.
6. I Was So Attached to My Drug of Choice That Losing It Seemed Like a Bereavement That Put Me Into Clinical Depression
Addiction is often seen as an attachment disorder. Especially in chronic cases, people may find the loss of their go-to support harder than they can bear. The grief of this nature may manifest as depression, anxiety, anger, or low self-esteem, all of which require to be addressed fully while in rehab and probably after discharge too. Failure to deal with such issues thoroughly can increase the likelihood of a relapse.
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7. I Could Not Accept the Stigma and Negativity Surrounding Addiction
A common trait among some people who relapse after rehab is their inability to manage issues of pride and self-esteem, sometimes described as the ‘king-baby’ syndrome. Such people combine unrealistic self-importance with very low self-esteem, leading them to try to hide their addiction from the world at large. Their pride blocks them from fully accepting the powerlessness and unmanageability of their addicted lives and unless addressed, sooner or later they will give their addiction another try.
8. My Ego Led Me to Believe That I Was Cured After Rehab and Didn’t Need Any Follow-up
Some people simply cannot accept that they are not strong enough to stay sober without help. They see their addiction as an annoyance that they have dealt with and no longer need to worry about and in that attitude lies danger.
9. I Did Not Have the Coping Skills to Handle Difficult Situations
No matter how good your rehab and the progress you’ve made, there will surely come a moment in early recovery when your sobriety is challenged – someone or something will trigger a strong craving and you have just seconds to decide your destiny. Someone might hand you a joint or place a glass of wine in your hand. What will you say and do? Think ahead. It helps a lot to practice responses in role-play settings, but not every rehab does this.
10. I Didn’t Properly Appreciate That Recovery Means Vigilance and Prevention Means Acquiring New Habits for Life
Addiction never gives up and therefore, neither must you. AA and other fellowships are full of people with many years of sobriety who are there for that very reason. Stick with the winners and follow your continuing care plan.
At Castle Craig Hospital we place great importance on all aspects of relapse prevention. Patients are often asked to ‘predict their next relapse’ which is meant ‘to identify their perceived biggest obstacle to recovery and then imagine a situation where this might put them in danger of relapse’. For example, a person with big ego issues might find it hard to explain why they are refusing a drink offered by a business colleague. Honesty, openness, and willingness to change are said to be the three essentials of successful recovery but there’s also truth in that old saying: ‘There’s many a slip between cup and lip’. In addition, every patient leaves treatment with a continuing care plan designed to ensure that the personal changes and new habits they have achieved will last them a lifetime.
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Making that first step in seeking help can be very difficult, our team is here to help you.
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How Do I Pay For Rehab?
One concern we sometimes hear from people is how they will fund their rehab treatment. The cost of rehab varies depending on what kind of accommodation you choose. You can pay for treatment at Castle Craig privately, or through medical insurance, and some people receive funding through the NHS.
How Long Is the Rehab Programme?
Residential rehab treatment starts at four weeks and can go up to 12+ weeks. Research shows us that the longer you stay in rehab and are part of the residential therapy programme, the longer the likelihood of continued abstinence and stable recovery.
Who Will I Speak to When I Call?
When you call you will reach our Help Centre team who will give you all the information you need to help you decide whether to choose treatment at Castle Craig. Once you have decided that you would like to have a free screening assessment you will be put in touch with our admissions case managers who will guide you through the admissions process.
What Happens at the End of My Treatment?
Castle Craig thoroughly prepares patients before departure by creating a personalised continuing care plan which is formulated following discussions with the medical and therapeutic team. We offer an online continuing care programme which runs for 24 weeks after leaving treatment, in order to ensure a smooth transition back into your everyday life. Patients leaving treatment automatically join our alumni group where they can stay connected via our annual reunion, events, online workshops and recovery newsletters.